What Is Sex Therapy?

Many people have sexual problems, worries, or concerns. A sex therapist is someone who has specialized training to talk comfortably and specifically about those concerns. A sex therapist's certification by AASECT ensures that the therapist has a graduate degree in a counseling related field, many hours of specialized training and supervision in sex therapy, many years of experience, and the highest of ethical standards. A sex therapist will ask a client to describe what particular problem he is struggling with; she may ask detailed questions to get a clear understanding of how, when, and why he may experience a problem. A sex therapist can help the client feel comfortable talking about an area that is often difficult. A client may talk with a sex therapist individually, or with a partner or spouse. The therapist will want to gather a broad understanding of the problem by learning about the client's history and about his relationships. The client's concerns are completely confidential and are treated with sensitivity, concern, and professionalism. After the initial anxiety of meeting with a sex therapist, many people find tremendous relief and reward. Some of the areas sex therapists are trained to help with are lack of desire, orgasmic difficulty, pelvic pain disorders, erectile dysfunction, ejaculatory difficulty, sexually compulsive behaviors, sexual identity problems, or sexually traumatic histories.

Sex therapists recommend these tips to improve your sex life:

- Emphasize the importance of relationship, love, mutual respect, and harmony.

- Expand your capacity for intimacy by taking small steps in being vulnerable.

- Have compassion-no one is perfect.

- Listen and talk about what is important.

- Know how to give.

- Compliment each other's special strengths in front of other people.

- Pay attention.

- Make your goal for sex to make it last and make it fun---not orgasm.

- In long-term attachments, romantic love can be stimulated at anytime by engaging in novel activity.

- Use of antidepressants can reduce sex drive, thereby jeopardizing romantic love. Keep this in mind and use judgement when considering taking an antidepressant. Wellbutrin is the one antidepressant without sexual side effects.

- People who play together stay together. Both sexual play as well as non-sexual play are important. Play creates good feelings. Keeping good feelings going over time is the key to successful, long-term relationships.

- Be present mentally so that you can be absorbed in the moment. For busy people, that may mean taking some time to shift gears, relax, prepare.

-By Patti Hard

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